Hey, can you pass the salt? Sure!
Can you drop me at my Dr. Appointment on Friday? Yep!
Will you help me move my couch this afternoon? No prob!
Hey – I’m looking for a new job; can you keep your eyes open for me? Ummmmm….. Maybe???
Whoa.. what happened? Whats the difference? Things just got a little bit more complex didn’t they?
I’d love to help, I just don’t know how – it’s too big. Where to start? What should I do? Oh crap – I forgot to get milk… Whoops the ask just got shelved. damn it… I fully intend to “keep my eyes open for you” but 3 weeks later, good will and intentions may still be all you have. I need help from you so I can help you.
What would happen if you said: “Hey Jeff I’m on the market and want to get into Medtronic. I see you know Jim Jones over there and I’d love if you could make an intro for me”.
Now that’s a specific, direct, actionable request. No ambiguity there! That person just made it easy for me. I don’t have to guess where to start. It’s not too big – it’s an easy ask and we will probably get some resolution. All it took was a few minutes on LinkedIn, or any social site for that matter, to investigate common connections. It’s time so well invested.
And so for all areas of life: Have the courage to ask; but by doing a little background investigating pre-ask, you will make it worlds easier for everyone!
That’s it for the day – have a great week everyone!